Last week my monthly articles posted at Pregnancy After Loss Support.

My monthly trying to conceive (TTC) journal article, “TTC After Loss: Superstitions as Hope” chronicled December’s cycle. From the article, “I have never thought of myself as a superstitious person, but as we moved into our ninth cycle after losing Patrick, I found myself holding on to a few truths that had very little basis in reality. Anecdotally, I’ve heard that one of the most common things told to people struggling with TTC is that if you ‘just relax’ and quit trying, you’ll get pregnant almost immediately. I, too, have experienced people telling me personal stories of how they got pregnant so quickly after they quit trying.”

From “How I Cope: Lists vs. Flowcharts,” my monthly coping strategy article, “I cling to my lists—to-do lists, idea lists, inspiration lists, wish lists, bucket lists (I’ve written about my lists before, in my articles about Self Care, Dialectics, and Mastery). My lists give me focus, direction, hope, motivation, and mastery. But sometimes they don’t provide the whole picture, which can cause a significant amount of frustration.”

Be sure to visit the article to view the TTC After Loss Flowchart I created to demonstrate the many different options a couple has when approaching and going through the TTC after loss process.